Thursday, March 31, 2011
Who are YOU??
So my rant today is about concious thought of how to improve yourself, physically, emotionally, spiritually....and any other way that is challenging to you. I hear so many people talk badly about themselves and others. It seems that we live in a world where nothing is good enough, and people don't try to make it better. I hear people complaining about thier weight but not being active in trying to get healthy, having relationship problems but not putting forth real effort to fix it, being lonely but making excuses as to why they can't meet anyone, having problems with thier kids but failing to "check in" and be a parent. People want an easy button to fix all of thier problems but fail to acknowledge that the problems are a direct result of choices they made. In a previous post, I explained how not choosing is a choice....people who refuse to make new choices and move forward are basically stating that they are happy with the choices they made to get where they are and don't want to change a thing. We all know that probably isn't true for most people. So what can be done about it today? Today, we can be more self aware. We can be aware of our past choices that lead us to our present, and make a conscious decision to be happy with those choices or make some changes. We can be aware of our behavior, body language, words, thoughts and deeds......what are they saying about you? Are you acting in a way that will make people (yourself included) feel good being around you? Are you taking the time to do your tasks to the best of your ability (your real ability, not the shortcut we take when we say "thats the best I can do"....nope, you can do better). Are you taking the time to listen in stead of just hearing? Are you making yourself better today than you were yesterday, even if only by a tiny bit? Are you being the very best you that you can be? Things to do that will help you improve daily....take a few minuets each day to reflect on who you are vs. who you want to be. Doing this automatically focuses you on doing your best. Be positive....don't just think positive....BE positive. Thinking positive is something you must do.....being positive is somethng you are. The difference sounds small but its HUGE!! Know your limits....you can only control who your are, the choices you make, the effects others have on you, how you react, what you think, what you say, what you do and who you are. Don't expect others to be, think, or feel the same way you do. Accept thier differences, and understand that what is right for you , may not be for them. Don't let it stop you from being your best you, but don't try to drag people with you either. Allow them the freedom to search for the way to be the best "them". Being happy with who you are makes it easy to let others be themselves.......I could do a whole blog about just that statement but I will let you all ponder what it means to you.