My rant today is about broken trust. I had a friend who I thught was one of my closest friends. She moved in next door to me and our daughters are "BFFs". She violated my trust in the worst way possible. Most of you know the challenges I face as a parent of a child with bipolar disorder....it isn't easy and it isn't always pretty. My son is 14 and is several inches taller than me and out weighs me by a bit now. Adult size body....kid size brain. This is a tough time for a lot of parents and even tougher still for parents whos kids have ADD, bipolar, or some other mental disorder. Over the weekend my son "lost his bananas". He went a little ballistic and my husband had to step in (for the first time) to physically restrain him. Prior to this I have always been able to do so but he is big now so I had to have some assistance. This is something parents with kids like this go through all of the time. It sucks, makes you sad, angry, disappointed and all of those other emotions you go through when things like this happen. My son has the best doctor in the state and we are constantly getting thing re evaluated to make sure we are doing our best to help him as he learns to deal with his disorder and discovers what tools work to help him. This incident would have been like every other one with one (figured out, dealth with, and learned from) except that I confided in my friend and "vented or blew off steam". You all know what I am talking about.....where you just let it all out so you don't bottle that stuff up, say things you don't really mean, blah blah just to clear your emotional garbage so you can move on. Well, she decided after several days (and letting her child come play at my house...even asking me to watch her) to call Child Protective Services on my family. She did not come to me and tell me that she was worried about me and the kids....the situation....or even ask me if things were ok, had we found solutions etc. She simply reported us. What this did is scare the ever loving crap out of my little daughter and my son. They were terrorized because they thought they would be taken from us. My daughter has "lost her best friend" because I won't allow her to go over there anymore and I am pretty sure they she won't let her daughter come here either. I am so sad for my little girl. I have other friends to lean on who know me better than to take my venting like she did. My daughter only has a couple of friends that live close. I am speechless. All she did was cause emotional trauma to the very kids she was trying to "protect". I have no words for this....I told my son's doctor that CPS had been called on us and he said. "Tell them to call me if they have any questions.....I will vouch for your family. You guys really don't need this". So anyway, I guess the lesson here is that even with people you think you know.....and think know you....you have to be careful what you say and how you say it because common sense is an elite comodity and you never know who will lose thiers and become part of the problem instead of part of the solution.
Thats it for today.